Saying To Your Son "I Love You" Will Not Make Him a Weak Man

If you planning on being a tough dad to your sons, you will slowly be killing them

In an African home, dad's presence is often received by trembling and tense. Always felt. Most children run to their rooms and others outside, to just be not close or be in the same room with their dads. This is because, most of them enter their houses with a lot of aggression, orders and demands; all bringing a sense of authority. 

I was listening to a radio show in one of my favourite programs, and the host was questioning why men find it hard to receive love from their fathers. The responses from the listeners were concerning. Some were saying they would rather not be in the same room with their dads with others adding that they would even be surprised if their dads said to them "I love you son", and that it would be like a miracle. Some would even question if the dad was okay in the head. I was astonished. 

Many men fear their own dads to the extent that explaining their issues to them is a problem. Some find it difficult to even ask for the simplest basic needs because they are afraid their dads would think they are not man enough. They suffer slowly, from the inside because they believe that opening up to their mothers or sisters instead would even present them as more weak. Their dads, who are supposed to be their best friends besides just "fathers" are unapproachable and expect them to be "strong men" and put their lives together. This exposes them to more mental torture when they can't achieve what is expected of them.

Right from birth, it is crucial for a father to bond with their sons to the time they grow up, and be lovable to them. It will not show weakness or put them in "papa's boy" situation when a father tells their sons they love them occasionally. The same amount of love and attention a dad accords the daughters should be the same one to the sons. They do deserve. This will help create a bond with them and a close relationship. With that, men will perhaps feel more free and comfortable to share their life problems with their dad's and not just let them slowly destroy their insides as it is the case in the society. Let your sons/future sons feel your love as a dad.

How you behave in the presence of your sons or in future, will depict the perception they will have about you and relationship too. Don't ambush them, embrace and let them feel loved and appreciated. This will help save the boy child.